Saturday 23 July 2016

Let Go

8 year relationship and now, it's time to just let it go. Ready to move on and up. No more waiting for someone to do this education and put my life on hold, i will think about me, myself  and i. 

Buliding myself up and no one ever going knock me down. I will fight against and illnes or human that will me make feel low. 
Strong for my children and better myself so they can see hard work. 

Friday 22 July 2016

Walking away for a break in relationship.

Being a single parents and having to come to terms you're going to have to do this on your own. Thinking i were strong as four but now I have to be even stronger as a three. Worry  if you're going to be a good parent and if you going to be able to work and look after children on your own. Even though you slit most the time its the  mothers responsibility to take on the children. The thought of him coming back and being a family there's always a happy memory, and I guess memory it will always be.
What do I do now, do a sit down and cry about what could have been, how do I get up and go things happen and move on. Even though it's easy for an outsider looking in to tell you what to do when you're at you in that situation, what would you do?
All the years being together mean nothing now, I guess we're got two kids from the relationship we thought would last a lifetime. I guess people change, we changed.

Saturday 16 July 2016

Hot Topic: Travelling With Children- Getting Organised (Written from Personal Experience)

Packing - what to take

Extra Necessities
  • suncream
  • teething toys -if you need them
  • bum cream
  • teething gel
  • any other medications
Carry-On
Food: milk, solids and snacks can usually be bought after going through customs - any pre-made formula will have to be tested to make sure there is no threat of a liquid bomb (I know!) as you pass through security. Make sure all the bottles/food are consumed on the flight as you aren't allowed to take fruit/veg into another country without declaring it.

Clothes: take a spare set for your little one as well as for yourself and anyone else who may be looking after them whilst on the flight as then you can change in the event of spillages/throw up/ nappy mishaps!

Toys: it's a good idea to take a few for the flight - especially long-haul ones as boredom is sure to strike after about an hour (if you are lucky your child may sleep through some of the flight).


In The Suitcase
Take weather- appropriate clothes - sunhats are important just as jackets are in cold weather. Even if you are traveling to a hot country, take a few changes of cool clothes as well as warm clothes to prepare for unexpected weather changes.

Coping With The New Experience
Pressure changes can be startling for young children and you should prepare for crying and wailing, possibly even screaming in severe cases. We were quite lucky - our daughter didn't notice this at all as she was sound asleep for take-off as well as landing - but not everyone has that much luck. I have heard incessant creaming from babies, toddlers, and very loud, very annoying winging from slightly older children. None of these are fun to listen to, but if a passenger does complain you can ask a flight attendant to see to it that they politely back off.

De-stressing: gum can help with the nerves as well as helping to prevent your ears from popping with cabin pressure changes. Watch movies on the in-flight entertainment, listen to music, write, read or draw and my personal favourite - do cross stitch! You are allowed blades up to 6cm and a needle is usually acceptable on the plain. I don't know if knitting needles are permitted, but it definitely killed a lot of time for me on my 10 hour flight. Walk up and down the cabins to give yourself and your Mimi-Me a change of scenery and some light exercise. They will love looking out of the windows at the back too - these are usually larger than the standard seat windows, and you don't have to hover over anyone to have a look!

Wednesday 13 July 2016

Woman who married herself (Sophie Tanner)

I first heard about this woman and I thought she was pretty mad. But the more I learn, the more intrigued I am about what leads someone to marry themselves I guess.

This marriage is not recognised, there is a celebration with a wedding dress and ceremony. In a journey to Discovery about yourself also being happy with the skin you're in. She's a happily single woman and it's brilliant that she embraces it. She doesn't seem crazy and she seems like she's got her life together.


Source
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3623511/Why-t-wedding-without-partner-Bonkers-bride-37-reveals-married-hit-stigma-single.html

How do I know that I have depression?

What is depression?
Depression is not just 'feeling sad' or a little low. To be diagnosed, symptoms must persist for several weeks at a time and be continuous. Feelings resulting from depression can include anger, withdrawing from socialising, a continuous state of feeling helpless, worthless and a lack of hope. The symptoms will not go away within a day or even a week. You can even have thoughts of harming yourself, and suicidal thoughts.

The difference from having depression and feeling depressed?
Having depression and feeling depressed is very different in many aspects as in depression will last for the minimum of 2 weeks and feeling depressed is a shorter amount of time. Feeling depressed you can get over very easily and it does not really last longer than a day.

Symptoms of Depression
  • Feeling hopeless and like nobody can help you.
  • Losing interest in things that you used to enjoy. Ect activities, hobbies and even friends and family.
  • Feeling drowsy or tired all the time.
  • Sleep pattern has changed
  • Changing of appetite.
  • Not being able to concentrate on stuff that you could do before.
  • On control being negative even if you try.
  • Short temper and irritable
  • You're more likely to drink or engaging are the reckless behaviour.
What's the science behind depression?
Many people think that because you can't see a condition it's not going on. Most of depression symptoms which you can observe through a person's behaviour  are actually a result of chemical imbalance in the brain. 

In a person without depression, serotonin (the chemical which makes us feel happy) will be released at a regular rate, whereas in a person with depression it may not be released very efficiently - resulting in low mood. This can be treated with SSRIs - Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors. 

SSRIs
These are commonly known as antidepressants. Taken in pill or liquid form, they are only available after an assessment with your GP, who may also recommend talking therapy or counselling. Usually coming in 25mg tablets, there are different kinds of anti-depressants - sertraline can be taken whilst pregnant or breastfeeding, citalopram can only be taken by adults over the age of 18 and fluoxetine is suitable for younger sufferers.

You may also have a smaller frontal lobe and hippocampus volume.

What is the frontal lobe?
Both of the frontal lobes are placed behind the forehead and is the front of the brain.

What does it do?
The frontal lobe is responsible for behaviour, learning, personality and voluntary moments.

What is the hippocampus?
Is in the centre of your brain. Any shape that abit like a kidney.

What does it do?
We're thought to believe that other hippocampus is the centre of your emotions, memory and also nervous system.

How can I help myself with depression?
Check the list and see if you have 5 or more of the symptoms. If so you can either talk about to someone about it or you could go straight to the doctor's can tell the doctors about your symptoms. Remember the longer you leave it the worse it will get.

How can I understand other people make other people aware of depression?
Making me illness
Looking for depression in other people?

How do I help other people with depression?
Whatever you do, don't ignore them, even if they become irritable, as this will only make their depression worse. Keep inviting them out and checking up on them, but not in a clinical way - all you have to do is say ''Hey, wanna meet up? Thought you might be a bit low - is everything alright?" or something along those lines.

The Science of Attraction - Teded


About Psychopaths (Source: Online Quizzes)

Organisation: In The Morning


It's a tough time for a lot of us, but for early birds the sunrise is something to be looked forward to and can even be seen as the best part of the day. Personally, I like being up before the rest of my family as it gives me a sense of achievement, but I do enjoy the odd lay-in too. 

I recommend that you:
  • Start getting stuff together the night before - sterilise any bottles and get them ready for saving in the fridge (or put water in the kettle ready for the next morning if you prefer making them up fresh)
  • Prep yourself and your little one - baths the night before make sure you are clean(er) in the morning. Do your beauty regime - plucking, shaving, moisturising etc.
  • Ask your partner to help you in the morning if they can
  • Leave at least half an hour to get yourself ready, and another half an hour for your child
  • Only do the minimal - take breakfast with you if you can
  • Write a list of what you need to get done and take with you if you have a bad memory (much like me!)


Generally, I find that unless I have my breakfast before my daughter wakes up, I don't get to have it until she is either playing happily or having her morning nap. For this reason I aim to always get up at 8am (she is usually up about half an hour later). Having quick showers is another thing I would recommend if you didn't get the chance to wash the night before.


Tuesday 12 July 2016

Movie Review: Cinderella (Contains Spoilers!)

Movie Review: Cinderella

I did love watching this with my daughter, and the plot was mostly true to the original Brother's Grimm fairytale.Being rated 'U' means of course the birds could not peck out the ugly step-sisters' eyes at the wedding of Cinderella, (which I have yet to see in any Cinderella movie). I would love to see a more morbid Cinderella movie, which also includes the step-mother chopping off the toes of one of her daughters, and the heel of the other as they try to squeeze into the glass slipper (apparently blood streams out of the shoe too!). But this would have to be in a Tim-Burton style movie, and denfinitely rated at least a 12!

Overall, this version of the story was enchanting and captivation - the visual effects were great and the actors portrayed the characters perfectly. I did miss the little bluebirds though, they were not really a part of the movie as much as they were in the Disney cartoon version and there were absolutely no songs. I missed the singing of the mice, especially, and would have liked to sere them making up Cinderella's dress for the Prince's party. It saddened me not to see the Prince and Cinderella riding away after their wedding in a pumpkin - like carriage at the end of the movie, but I loved how instead of vengful birds pecking their eyes out (!) the step-sisters and mother were forgiven by Cinderella. 

It is not clear to me exactly why Cinderella introduces herself as such to the Prince, as at the beginning of the movie her name is actually Ella, Cinderella being the nasty nickname her step - family call her.

My Day Diary: Bath Time Can Be Testing

Bath time is usually a fun time for babies  and parents alike: it is soothing and water makes a great splashy toy! But not for everyone, and certainly not all the time. Today, for example, was a bit of a struggle...

Running my little mini-me her bath, I watch her become more excited by the second. Blending hot and cold together, I make sure that the bath is the right temperature by testing it with my elbow, and allow her to sit in it happily whilst I finish running it (she loves to watch the tap run). At this point she has started grabbing for her bath toys, tastefully dotted around in the tub by myself. As she plays, she clearly delights in bum shuffling along the bath to get a better hold on her toys. I wash her hair and, as always, feel that small pang of anxiety - what if she slips?! This is an unfounded worry - she has never slipped whilst I was washing her hair and I always make sure to keep one hand behind her back for support, or hold onto her shoulder. Anyways, it was this which made me think 'I really should get a bath mat down.' (Readers fear not: It was not slipping in the bath which brought on the tantrum today.)



My little one prefers to have a lengthy bath and hates being pulled straight out of it, so instead I let water drain out whilst she is still sitting in the bath. Whilst she's still playing with her toys in the now drained bath, I dry off her hair and give her a little towel down, prepping her for the task ahead. This is when it gets ugly... As always I am lulled into a false sense of security as she quite happily allows me to pick her up out of the bath, swaddle her in her little towel and sit her down on the bath towel (on the bathroom floor).

The tricky part comes when I lie her down to get her nappy on. Firstly, she likes to pull herself up to stand at the side of the bath, clinging on for dear life (as if the bath water will come back as long as she wills it to). I let her sit back in the bath for a second - tyhis was a mistake. Now crying, I again try to sit her down on the bath mat/towel and then lay her down to change her nappy. The eyes become angry little squints and her mouth contorts into wailing chasm, her smooth forehead furrowed with frown lines.

She does her best to kick away my attempts at changing her. To quell the crying, I carry her into her room to get some clothes. This is a temporary solution. I practically wrestle her into her clothes (whilst thinking always 'think of a flower, think of a flower') and eventually voila! She is clean, dry and dressed. The next challenge is putting her down to make up a bottle as this time I did not prepare myself. Cbeebies is usually my saviour at this point, but by this time it was too late. Gritting my teeth against the oncoming tantrum, I let Mini-me sit in her horsey doughnut and pour the still-warm water from the kettle into a bottle, up to the 7 ounces line and add seven scoops of powder. All the while screaming escapes form the next room. Only a bottle will calm hr down as she hasn't taken a dummy for months now and I think she finds it soothing to drink milk (the sucking action similar to when dummies are used).

Finally, I sweep up my daughter and jam the bottle (gently) into her mouth. The cyring ceases, her brown once again non-furrowed and smooth and her mouth making a perfect 'o' around the bottle's teat.

Bath Time if now officially Over!

Language and Culture: Bi-lingual Children

Being Bi-lingual means that you can speak more than one language fluently. For example, speaking English and Spanish (both fluently) would make a person 'bi-lingual'. You can, of course, be fluent in more than two languages and still be classed as Bi-lingual, as the term is not restricted to one speaking only 2 languages. (There is no limit!)

Raising Children to be Bi-Lingual

Some of my cousins speak two languages fluently - Japanese and English, and Chinese and English. Whilst for one of my cousins, their most useful language is English as they live in the USA, for my other cousins Japanese is their main language (although by blood they are half English) as they live in Japan.


An English-Dominated World
Much of the world today is English-speaking, as a lot of trade is made with the US as well as England, and our culture is incredibly influential. The English culture still lingers in India, long after the country was colonised years ago by the British as tea is still drunk there and cricket is a popular sport (as well as football). 

This is great for the British and the Americans as it means we have more allies and many understand the ways of our countries, but what does this mean for the rest of the world? Surely we should be more open and accepting of other's cultures, too? A part of this acceptance is learning (or attempting to learn) other languages. 

I have been on many holidays abroad and encountered incredibly rude Brits as well as Americans. There is one time I recall seeing a group of Americans in a French restaurant speaking English to all the staff, expecting them to be fluent and not even saying 'merci' (the French for 'thank you'). Of course, not everyone is like this, most people are respectful and make the effort to learn about the country's culture before traveling there. 

Acceptance of Other Cultures
Being more open and accepting of others cultures can be a quality we teach our children to have. I believe that the first step to introducing another culture into the house is by introducing a new language. 

Now I am not saying that our children should all be Bi-Lingual, but I do think that watching shows in another language and reading a few books in another language can be helpful to our children. I own several children's books from different countries of origin ' on is Hawaiian, another Irish, and I even have a little Hello Kitty book in French for my daughter. (This also helps me brush up on my french). Although most of these books are written in English (including a Japanese fairy tales book), they helped me as a child understand the cultural values and beliefs of others. 

An example of this is that I understand most of the visual jokes in the Japanese movie My Neighbours The Yamadas, which has several scenes that relate to Japanese fairy tales.

Are We Confusing Our Children?
In short, no. If done appropriately, speaking, reading and allowing our children to listen to other languages other than their native tongue can be educational and helpful later on in life. Obviously I would advise sticking to one main language (or it may become confusing for your child), but when integrating another language it is useful to translate words and phrases. When my daughter looks at her French Hello Kitty book, I read it to her first in French and then translate each word to English.

Surprisingly, the one and only cartoon my daughter will watch and calm down with (even when on the brink of a meltdown) is sung in French! I highly recommend the French version of Disney's Silly Symphonies!

About Anxiety (Source: Zac FM)

You may be suffering with anxiety if you regularly experience the following:
  • Sleeping problems
  • Joint/muscle pain
  • migraines
  • ongoing illnesses
Those most at risk of developing anxiety are women and young people under 35.

The way men and women cope with anxiety makes it more of an issue for women as they tend to cope with stress internally, whereas men use external coping methods, such as drinking. Brain chemistry is to blame for the heightened likelihood of women developing anxiety issues as women's hormones make them more prone to stress.

Internet addiction has been linked to negatively impacting mental health. depression is being looked into as people with this condition are also more prone to anxiety. The definition could result in the outcome of younger people having more anxiety as older people cope differently.

No one knows exactly why some people develop anxiety and others don't, but there is speculation that the rise in technology use could be linked to the trend of increasing mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.

Superfoods: The Real Story (Series 2 Episode 2 on Channel 4+1)


Coffee helps to prevent liver damage
Italy
  • Anti-inflammatory properties, and antioxidants. 
  • Can neutralise toxins which damage liver.
  • Instant coffee has the same benefits – components of coffee is the same. ‘Superfood’ for the liver.
  • Decaf coffee has the same benefits as caffienated
Study using rats found that feeding them a fatty diet with caffiene added reduced the damage to the liver, compared to a rat on a high fatty diet with no caffiene.  A person would have to drink 4 cups of coffee a day to experience the full benefits. This is a normal amount for many Italians. The Department of Health agrees that this amount is safe.


Saffron can be used as an anti-depressant
Morocco
  • Up to £75 per gram, reserved for use at weddings. 
  • Used as face paint to identify the bride. 
  • Saffron tea given as sacred drink to life mood of important wedding guests.
  • Herbalist says that saffron helps with circulation, memory and can be used as an aphrodisiac. He recommends three stamens for an ‘explosive night’.
  • Two to three stamens placed in hot milk can be served as a drink to treat depression
  • Natural anti-oxidant
  • More evidence to show it is an effective anti-depressants, fewer side effects than medication.
Physiological studies into saffron being carried out. 30mg / day 10-20 saffron threads a day. 


Teff can help prevent iron deficiencies
Etheopia
  • 3x more iron than in spinach (beans, eggs and oily fish also contain iron)
  • Available at health food stores and some supermarkets in a variety of products such as sprinkles, oats, milk.
  • Diet can be the reason Etheopia doesn’t have iron deficiency problem, as everyone eats teff regularly (if not daily) 
  • Since moving to UK diet of female athlete changed and she developed iron deficiency. After a break back in Etheopia iron levels returned to normal
  • Can help run for longer.  Pilot study showed this, but larger studies needed to make this official.
Iron helps red blood cells function and carries oxygen around the body. Female athletes need more iron than males. 1 in 5 women in the UK are iron deficient, with 1 in 3 female athletes also being so. 

A woman training for the  London marathon decided to test the theory that eating teff daily can prevent iron deficiencies. A blood test showed that her iron levels were low, and after eating Teff for several weeks her irons levels had dropped further, but this may have been because running ruptures some red blood cells with each foot strike, meaning she was constnatly losing some iron as she trained. However, eating teff meant that she had prevented some iron loss.

Hot Topic of The Day: Legal Highs (Source: 999 What's Your Emergency)

Legals highs are designed to mimic the effect of illegal drugs. Many people mistakenly believe that it is safer to use these than high street drugs as they are 'allowed' to be used. In fact, almost all labels on the products used for legals highs warn buyers not to consume the product in any way. These drugs can be bought by anyone of any age, which makes them incredibly dangerous. On average, only 3 out of 5 bags looked at by the police contained what they said on the label.

Many emergency calls are now being made about people on drugs, whether they be legal or illegal, and have been reported at all hours of the day (not just at night). Addressing the issues caused by legal highs are described by police as 'probably one of our greatest demands now'. 



Horror Stories
  1. 'Spice' is a synthetic alternative to cannabis but it has more serious side effects. Hallucinations have been reported as well as paranoid thinking. One caller said someone who had smoked a legal high was found frothing at the mouth.
  2. One male with a legal-high drug addiction stated to medics"You don't understand. I'm like this cause I haven't had it. This is what happens when I've not had it for a couple of hours". The young man had been found vomiting blood, after missing a dose of legal highs. He had been addicted to 'pandora's box' , another alternative to cannabis for 14 months, smoking 4-5 bags a day.  It claims the same mellow high as cannabis.
  3. Methoxphenedine was taken by a man who was unable to use hand eye co ordination to raise his hand to his mouth (for example to have a cigarette) 
  4. A legal high addict admits that when she is not high she is unwell; "I'm normally sick I'm normally sweating, I'll panic". Woman bit another user in the heat of an argument because she "got in my face". She also pulled a chunk of hair out of the other woman's head. Patch 4 inches long on woman's scalp. The woman served a prison sentence.
1. SPICE
A popular synthetic version of cannabis, but the strain may be much stronger than it's natural (and illegal) alternative. Using the drug may have few consequences legally (you may not go to prison for substance abuse) but physically and mentally there are clearly much bigger issues related to the drug than found in cannabis users.

2. PANDORA'S BOX 
As this synthetic alternative is cheaper than cannabis it is more appealing to consumers, but is said to have terrible withdrawal symptoms, on par with crack and heroin. It is described as bieng "Up with class A drugs" by police, and heroin users say the legal stuff is worse than their habit.

3. METHOXPHENEDINE
Not yet researched enough to know the full risks posed by the drug.

4. SIDE EFFECTS
Highly addictive and bringing pain to users if they stop using, legal highs are quickly becoming a growing issue in Britain.

It's difficult to treat users when the chemical makeup has been altered - this can be a slight change making substances that would otherwise be illegal, legal. People using these substances are warned that they are treating themselves "Like human guinea-pigs". People can become quickly violent. Emergency services seeing a rise in victims whose attackers were on legal highs. Users usually can't remember the experience at all, being appalled at their own behaviour hours later. 

On The Street...
Street drinkers are also moving onto legal highs as they are more affordable than alcohol and street drugs. Users would also be more likely to be arrested for taking illegal highs such as cocaine. Officers describe the habit as being like teasing law enforcement: 'look at me, I'm taking this right infront of you and there's nothing you can do about it!'

Emergency services say it is "Like something you'd see in a computer game. Like zombies walking down the street." 

Online...
The Government can make the substances illegal and shut down the shops but the substances will still be available online. A friend of a user says that you can simply "Order what you want, what amount you want and get it delivered within 3 days." 

Re-Launch Monday: Technical Errors

We would like to apologise for failing to re-launch the blog yesterday, due to technical errors (such as my freaking internet won't work!) this wasn't really possible.

To make up for this, we will be posting as many of yesterday's posts as possible, whilst still covering the Tuesday Topics (see our weekly plan on another post) .

Thank You for being patient - stay tuned for more photos in DIY :D

Friday 8 July 2016

RE-LAUNCH MONDAY!

Some of you may have noticed that we have been slacking quite a bit recently.

This was for a number of reasons, one of them being lack of organisation which we have now addressed and can proudly give you our new weekly layout. As both writers of this blog are due a very busy weekend, we'll re-launch our posts next Monday (11th July). Thank you for staying tuned!



DAY
MUMS
MARS
MONDAY
Hot topic
Language/Culture
Food Debate
Budgeting
Diet
TUESDAY
Movie Reviews, Reading Lists and Music
Fashion
Hair & Beauty
Daily Diary
WEDNESDAY
Mental Health
Friendships
Pregnancy – Physical Changes
Organisation
Marriage
Relationships (Family and Being a Single Parent)
THURSDAY
Art / DIY
Gardening
Photography
FRIDAY
Events
LGBT and Race
Hot Topic
DIY & Mum Hacks
How Many Kids?
SATURDAY
Exercise
Cooking
Natural Remedies
Fashion
Illness & Coping
Pregnancy Challenges
SUNDAY
Living Situation
Grandparents
Work/Home Life
Raising Kids (Old vs New Methods)